The Meaning of Mentorship
Tiffany Irene PRASETIO, College of Humanities & Sciences
Photograph by Tiffany. My group’s last day in Bukit Merah Secondary School together with Ms Stella Toh, our supervisor.
My name is Tiffany, a Data Science and Economics major who is passionate about empowering others. I grew up spending most of my time in various schools in Indonesia where my mother, an educator, served as my first and most inspiring role model. School was more than a place; it was a second home that shaped my dreams and aspirations. This deep-seated exposure to educational environments ignited a lifelong ambition in me: to establish a missional school. Driven by this vision, I pursued a scholarship in Singapore.
Throughout my educational journey, I have seized every opportunity to mentor, tutor, and volunteer in diverse learning environments, from local schools in Singapore to educational initiatives abroad and even online classes. Having interned and mentored with the Ministry of Education, I’ve been privileged to witness the expansive landscape of education in Singapore and across Asia from a unique vantage point. While schools employ various resources and innovative teaching methods in engaging students and parents, my experience has helped me understand the complexities that come with the holistic education of a student, and deepened my appreciation for the pivotal role mentorship can play in complementing educational structures. Effective mentorship can bridge gaps by providing personalized support, encouraging academic and personal growth, and fostering resilience among students. It was this insight, coupled with my belief in the limitless potential of mentorship, that compelled me to pursue the GEN2050 Teach SG course. I saw it as an opportunity to further refine my skills and implement innovative mentorship strategies that could make a real difference in the lives of students.
Photograph by Rajit. Our group conducted a session on study techniques where each of us shared our unique ways of learning.
GEN2050 offers a unique platform, attaching NUS students to primary and secondary schools to mentor. Each week, we dedicate two to three hours to mentorship, focusing on academic support and engaging activities to foster goal setting and provide emotional support. Through these interactions, we aim to be positive role models, instill values like discipline, and build strong rapport with our mentees. In particular, I had the opportunity to serve at Bukit Merah Secondary School. This experience proved transformative, furnishing me with invaluable skills in active listening and communication—tools that are crucial not just for mentoring but for life. These skills were immediately put to the test as I encountered students who initially seemed uninterested and disengaged.
One example occurred when I met a group of girls who initially ignored our efforts, chatting within their circle. Despite feeling disheartened, I persisted by speaking in their mother tongue to help with their homework, which eventually gained their trust. This experience emphasized the importance of adaptability and perseverance in building relationships. It also taught me that establishing rapport often requires patience and a genuine effort to ensure that mentees feel understood, heard, and seen.
Learning from “Sarah”
Another noteworthy experience was my journey with one particular mentee, Sarah (not her real name). When I first met Sarah, I realized that the challenges she faced delved deeper into emotional and social realms.
A memorable incident occurred when Sarah approached me, visibly troubled by an interaction with her peers. She was so distressed that we had to pause our planned activities to address her emotional state. Instead of focusing on what had happened, I encouraged her to reflect on what she was feeling and what she believed in. This process of guided introspection helped her clarify her thoughts and intentions, providing her with a clearer perspective. In the end, she was able to manage her emotions better and had the confidence to stand by her personal values.
Despite my usual reluctance to engage in personal dramas, this experience highlighted the enlightening role of mentorship and the mentor’s responsibility to provide a safe space for young people to explore their feelings and challenges. However, this incident also underscores a greater need: many young people would flourish with additional emotional support beyond what they typically receive in their school and home environments. Each week, I encounter new personal stories from students that highlight their challenges while navigating life. Sometimes, they may feel uncertain about where to turn to for guidance and support.
Photograph by Tiffany. To start off the year, our group held an ice breaker session while enjoying delicious pizzas.
The Heart of Mentorship
As such, to those considering taking GEN2050 or simply interested in mentoring others, my advice is to approach each interaction with openness, empathy, and belief. I have learned that engaging in mentorship requires a willingness to enter each encounter without preconceived notions, fully open to understanding the unique circumstances and perspectives of each mentee.
The ability to recognize that each mentee brings their own set of experiences and challenges, which may require different approaches and solutions, is what makes mentoring both a dynamic and profoundly rewarding experience. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of empathy and authenticity. They work hand in hand to ensure that our mentees feel safe and respected, which is fundamental to building trust and maintaining an open communication channel. Last but not least, I have discovered that having a deep understanding of our intentions and a strong sense of self-belief are essential fuels for persevering through the challenging and tiring periods of mentorship. The genuine passion to love and serve others is the very heart of mentorship.
Photograph by a BMSS student. The people who made the journey fun and fruitful. From the Left: Pak Hong, Fengyao, Sanchana, Zhengyu, Tiffany, Rajit, Tianyi.
TLDR...
Ultimately, effective mentorship is not about providing all the answers but about guiding mentees to discover their own strengths, beliefs, and purposes. It requires patience, a deep sense of commitment, and a readiness to celebrate small victories along the way. If you are prepared to embark on this journey, you will find that mentoring can transform not just the lives of those you are mentoring but also enrich your own life immeasurably as it did mine.
This journey of mentorship has deepened my resolve and sharpened my vision for what education can and should achieve: a missional school that transcends traditional boundaries, where a curriculum emphasizing emotional intelligence is as valued as academic rigor, fostering self-awareness, empathy, and purpose. While I continue to shape this dream as I complete my education, the concept of mentorship is not just an academic course for me—it’s the start of what I envision as a life worth living, putting others before myself.